So, I hate to break it to you...I've never truly hugged a porcupine.
But in this metaphor, I have.
So bear with me for a second.
Relationships can be incredibly complicated.
Friendships, romantic relationships, developing relationships...and pretty much any type of relationship between two people out there in this world. People are messy, life gets incredibly messy, and the fact that we can get along with all of the crazy things going on in our world is an absolute miracle.
Then, when you throw peoples emotions, past events, and egos into the equation as well it gets even more complicated.
However, there's something to be said for the person who stays another persons rock no matter what is going on in their life. There's something special about being someone who can support another person despite their misbehavior.
We all need someone to put our back up against when times get tough. The reality is, we actually all really need that person in our life. We need someone to talk to, to express our deepest fears and our greatest wishes, our worries, doubts, fears, insecurities and everything else in between.
But that takes vulnerability and vulnerability is one of the scariest things in the world.
It takes you being willing to break down your walls and really confiding in another person. It takes trust. It takes you being willing to put your faith in another person being able to take care of you.
The beautiful part of all of this?
You give another person an opportunity to love you just the way you are.
You become imperfectly perfect to them and give them the opportunity to support you.
We all, deep down, are thirsting for a love that seems to be harder and harder to come by these days.
So remember that when people are out there in the world really hurting, suffering, and facing challenges, they can be a bit prickly like a porcupine sometimes...
Hug those people tight.
Nourish them. Love them. Take care of them. Break down their walls and barriers if they don't have the courage to do it themselves. Stand right in front of them and say, "I love you exactly the way you are...no matter what version that may be right now. I'm right here."
That's the good stuff. That's real love.
That's really loving someone for who they are.
That's how we all deserve to be loved.
That' what we deserve.
But in this metaphor, I have.
So bear with me for a second.
Relationships can be incredibly complicated.
Friendships, romantic relationships, developing relationships...and pretty much any type of relationship between two people out there in this world. People are messy, life gets incredibly messy, and the fact that we can get along with all of the crazy things going on in our world is an absolute miracle.
Then, when you throw peoples emotions, past events, and egos into the equation as well it gets even more complicated.
However, there's something to be said for the person who stays another persons rock no matter what is going on in their life. There's something special about being someone who can support another person despite their misbehavior.
We all need someone to put our back up against when times get tough. The reality is, we actually all really need that person in our life. We need someone to talk to, to express our deepest fears and our greatest wishes, our worries, doubts, fears, insecurities and everything else in between.
But that takes vulnerability and vulnerability is one of the scariest things in the world.
It takes you being willing to break down your walls and really confiding in another person. It takes trust. It takes you being willing to put your faith in another person being able to take care of you.
The beautiful part of all of this?
You give another person an opportunity to love you just the way you are.
You become imperfectly perfect to them and give them the opportunity to support you.
We all, deep down, are thirsting for a love that seems to be harder and harder to come by these days.
So remember that when people are out there in the world really hurting, suffering, and facing challenges, they can be a bit prickly like a porcupine sometimes...
Hug those people tight.
Nourish them. Love them. Take care of them. Break down their walls and barriers if they don't have the courage to do it themselves. Stand right in front of them and say, "I love you exactly the way you are...no matter what version that may be right now. I'm right here."
That's the good stuff. That's real love.
That's really loving someone for who they are.
That's how we all deserve to be loved.
That' what we deserve.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Kindness Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/kindness-quotes/ or these Sympathy Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/sympathy-quotes/ to get some motivation to move forward!
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